Just write a letter already...
Que conversation... woman complaining about creepy guys at parties... apparently not all that impressed by the guy initiating the conversation. this scenarion reminds me of two things... one that annoys me and one that is just a basic observation about life.
The first deals with the fact that women complain about men coming up and "hitting" on them at parties. I mean really... men are stereotyped (traditionally speaking) to have to initiate the conversation and you certainly have the right to pick and chose who you would like to talk to, but to then take it one step further and complain about it as if it's a burden? and who's to say you wouldn't complain about having not gotten talked to by anyone? I've heard female friends talking about when a good time to talk or hit on someone is, but there's a big problem with their logic: 1. men and women do not think the same... end of story and 2. the person doesn't know you and doesn't know when a good time to chat would be... he's merely making an effort. Now no matter how socially awkward a man might be, it is entirely the fault of the female gender for selecting only males that "hit" on them through the ages. Say what you will but i'm right on this. Males that "show their stuff" to impress the ladies have been selected for throughout time and if this need to impress along with any of alcohol/social awkwardness makes the guy appear to be"creepy", well don't complain about it, just write a letter to your dead ancestors thanking them for their hands in a social selection of sorts ;-)
And secondly... it reminds me about how we as people are always wanting to have our cake and eat it too. We always want the best situations to happen and then they don't and we complain. Perhaps this is also a human trait that has been selected for throughout the generations. Perhaps hoping for the best and not getting it is what has driven our homo sapien race to develop all the fantastic things that we have today. It is what has driven us as humans to always try to figure things out and make things easier. Maybe the cavemen were disappointed when they discovered fire and then realized they had to constantly gather wood to fuel the fire. i dunno...
The first deals with the fact that women complain about men coming up and "hitting" on them at parties. I mean really... men are stereotyped (traditionally speaking) to have to initiate the conversation and you certainly have the right to pick and chose who you would like to talk to, but to then take it one step further and complain about it as if it's a burden? and who's to say you wouldn't complain about having not gotten talked to by anyone? I've heard female friends talking about when a good time to talk or hit on someone is, but there's a big problem with their logic: 1. men and women do not think the same... end of story and 2. the person doesn't know you and doesn't know when a good time to chat would be... he's merely making an effort. Now no matter how socially awkward a man might be, it is entirely the fault of the female gender for selecting only males that "hit" on them through the ages. Say what you will but i'm right on this. Males that "show their stuff" to impress the ladies have been selected for throughout time and if this need to impress along with any of alcohol/social awkwardness makes the guy appear to be"creepy", well don't complain about it, just write a letter to your dead ancestors thanking them for their hands in a social selection of sorts ;-)
And secondly... it reminds me about how we as people are always wanting to have our cake and eat it too. We always want the best situations to happen and then they don't and we complain. Perhaps this is also a human trait that has been selected for throughout the generations. Perhaps hoping for the best and not getting it is what has driven our homo sapien race to develop all the fantastic things that we have today. It is what has driven us as humans to always try to figure things out and make things easier. Maybe the cavemen were disappointed when they discovered fire and then realized they had to constantly gather wood to fuel the fire. i dunno...
posted by 13ismyluckynumber at 8:56 PM
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so seeing as though i was just in this exact situation the other night, i feel the need to comment.
I, for one, do not object to getting compliments from guys that i do not know. It is flattering, i'm not going to lie. It's just when you get the shady guys, like the ones that drive up and down university honking their horns at you shouting trying to get your number...and they're like. 40. and you could be their daughter. that's creepy. as for the party situation, girls are quick to pick up on which guy is running around complimenting all the girls. i did receive compliments from the guys on saturday night. and i accepted them and thanked them, but there was one guy in particular...just the way he "hit" on me, was enough to make my skin crawl. even though i should be flattered, i was not, just because my brain was telling me he was shady. our subconscious is good at detecting things and people that we should stay away from, and he was one of them.
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