This is the word that comes to mind for females who are insecure. They lack a confidence in themselves that would make their world totally freakin sweet. When insecure females (aside from not being happy alone) are fortunate enough to land a boyfriend, they often wonder why a their boyfriend is with them and seek out signs and symbols that prove that the boyfriend is in fact interested in them and not just "hanging out" with them. These symbols are usually ill founded and follow a line of thinking that already has condemned that guy, a line of thinking that might be summarized like: "he's too good for me... what's the catch? why is he with me, im so ugly... why would he date me over her..." the list goes on and on, but in this mentality these girls actively search for flaws because they will not let themselves accept that the guy likes them and that they do in fact deserve to be with him. It's a vicious cycle that creates a negative feedback loop with the girl continuing to find flaws (since none of us are perfect... not even myself) and continuing to feel as if she is not satisfied by a truly awesome relationship. This very type of relationship will end, assuming the guy has self confidence and gets frustrated, in a very disappointing break up leaving the guy feeling like the girl went nucking futs. I can say i have been in this very type of relationship and it is not fun... in fact it left me feeling like the girl i was so attracted to initially, checked out and left... leaving an different person with personality traits that i had never seen before behind for me to deal with.
Today at lunch my sister and i decided that this type of insecurity does have an evolutionary advantgage and that is that women who are emotionally immature are more likely to be emotionally manipulative of their men. Both my sister and i agree that men fall victim to emotional manipulation much the same way that women fall victim to physical manipulation. But back to the Darwainism of Insecurity. Men are prone to trying to make their women happy... this makes sense as the burden of the species-child birth rests on the shoulders of women. Men must make women happy in order to inseminate them and then protect them for years in order to pass on genes to offspring. Now when insecure, women can capitalize on this need to please by being emotionally manipulative of their men. This emotional manipulation ensures that the men stick by the woman and ensures that the woman too is passing on her genes and being inseminated.
I do know one thing is fact: i will not go through another relationship with someone who is insecure with themselves.
One of my female friends is extremely confident in herself and she is very attractive as a result. Confidence in one's self is one of those mental image things that can make up for what god didn't give you physically, and no, i was not implying that my female friend linked above is not attractive... but i would date someone who didnt have stellar looks but had confidence, poise, and composure over a girl who was gorgeous and was always stressing about what everyone else thought of her. All you have to do is observe confident people and you'll see that confidence and happiness are proportional to each other. Those that lack confidence in themselves are not happy with life... those that are confident are happy.
So lets spread the word, confidence is ... well should be in!
