So i've been up on the river for most of the summer and I've had a few chances to get away, some planned some not. So far I've had 12 customers fall out of the boat throughout the season, which is not too bad. 6 of them were from one "dump truck" where everyone in the boat including myself fell out because i very ineptly guided the raft into the wrong part of the rapid. No one has been seriously hurt from it so hakunamatata. I don't think anyone knows but my grandma on my dad's side of the family died last month. It was very sudden and unexpected but at least she didn't suffer long. Love you grandma; i think of you every day on the river :-)
I have learned a lot about myself and about others my age on the river. I have been verbally praised about my convictions and been verbally harassed by drunk raft guides about my unwillingness to sleep around or just "fool around". Yea, excuse me for not cheapening something that should be more than just a first name and a hangover in the morning. I see a lot of these raft guides wanting someone to care about them, although a few seem only to want this transient life style where they are not accountable to someone of the opposite gender. I see many of them initiating relationships with members of the opposite sex by having sex with them. It might just be me but this doesn't sound like the miracle cocktail for a successful relationship. I think a lot of them have been relating with the opposite gender like this for so long that they wouldn't even know how to just have a friend and not sleep with them at some point. What started this is an experience at the bar the other night. I was the designated driver for the evening and one of my friends from birmingham was up hanging out and we hugged and said hello and she went and danced to the tune the band was playing. One of the guys told me that she totally wanted me, to which i responded that we were just friends and it was going to stay that way. Apparently when your inebriated you feel as if you have stumbled upon superb arguing skills because he proceeded to tell me that i don't have to have sex with someone to fool around with them, and that if i didn't want to fool around i must like little boys. Ha! i didn't hold it against him because 1) he was drinking and 2) i'm sure he's never really been exposed to someone so confident in themselves and their independence that they didn't feel the need to have someone there to fill some kind of void (im really not trying to sound egotistical on that point). Well, anywho, maybe next season my behavior will rub off on some of these guys and they'll realize that the only way to find someone and have a relationship with someone is to talk and hang out, at least for a while before you sleep with them.
I've had a lot of time to think while i've been up there and it has been so therapeutic. I've spent a lot of time these last few months thinking about something my aunt told me, she said "if you aren't ready to settle down, then it won't work out if you do find the right person". It's so simple but the more I've thought about it, the more she's right. I would only be having half the fun up there that i would normally be if i was worried about some kind of lady friend somewhere. I would have to call and talk, and sometimes when i get off the river, i just want to hang out with my fellow raft guides and have a beer, no talking involved. I've realized that over the course of the next year or two there is a lot of traveling that i want to do and having someone in my life would be counterproductive to that. It's amazing how something can bother you and just keep you thinking until someone says something simple and obvious and it knocks you out of a trance. Anywho, I started playing with travel ideas tonight. Here they are:
3.5 weeks in australia
3 weeks in northwest USA
3 weeks in southwest USA
Hiking in Europe
Appalachian Trail Thru-Hike
(Climbing trips spread throughout these travels)
With a little bit of optimism, a wee bit of inherited logistical dexterity, and a small slice of catholicism on the side, I'll be able to make most of these happen. Here's hoping!