210, 3 miles, and the pursuit of happiness
worked out this morning. I did 210 5 times on the bench so im definately getting stronger. I also ran for 25 minutes, did about 3 miles...yay... In other news:
Brandon and I got into a heated debate last night about dating each others' previous flames. I have the outlook that once you're done with someone, you're done and it shouldn't matter who dates the person you were with. I proceeded to tell him that if he wanted to date cristi, then by all means he could (although this is one of the most unlikely things to happen). Brandond proceeded to tell me that if i was a friend of his, he would expect me not to pursue any of his previous "people" out of respect for him as a friend. I really have a lot of disdain for this kind of argument. To me it seems like the grown up version of the first grader saying, "I'll be your best friend if you give me your mexican pizza" at lunch. It's just putting stipulations on a friendship, which friendships should not be made under any stipulation... you're friends because you enjoy each others company. To me, the whole "don't date my ex" syndrome seems to relate to self esteem, and a lack there of. It almost seems like the other person is somehow afraid that things might work out with you and their ex, which would imply that their is something wrong with them and something right about you, because things didn't work out with themselves and their ex. Therefore, they would prefer not to have to deal with you appearing better and would prefer to avoid this hit to their self esteem, so they tell you not to date their ex. Emotional bullshit is what it is... plain and simple. Now obviously, if one of my friends were to date cristi, i wouldn't want to hear the specifics about what kinds of physical things they were doing, but even if it did bother me somewhere in the depths of my mind, why should a little discomfort on my part keep one of my friends from pursuing their own happiness?
Brandon and I got into a heated debate last night about dating each others' previous flames. I have the outlook that once you're done with someone, you're done and it shouldn't matter who dates the person you were with. I proceeded to tell him that if he wanted to date cristi, then by all means he could (although this is one of the most unlikely things to happen). Brandond proceeded to tell me that if i was a friend of his, he would expect me not to pursue any of his previous "people" out of respect for him as a friend. I really have a lot of disdain for this kind of argument. To me it seems like the grown up version of the first grader saying, "I'll be your best friend if you give me your mexican pizza" at lunch. It's just putting stipulations on a friendship, which friendships should not be made under any stipulation... you're friends because you enjoy each others company. To me, the whole "don't date my ex" syndrome seems to relate to self esteem, and a lack there of. It almost seems like the other person is somehow afraid that things might work out with you and their ex, which would imply that their is something wrong with them and something right about you, because things didn't work out with themselves and their ex. Therefore, they would prefer not to have to deal with you appearing better and would prefer to avoid this hit to their self esteem, so they tell you not to date their ex. Emotional bullshit is what it is... plain and simple. Now obviously, if one of my friends were to date cristi, i wouldn't want to hear the specifics about what kinds of physical things they were doing, but even if it did bother me somewhere in the depths of my mind, why should a little discomfort on my part keep one of my friends from pursuing their own happiness?
posted by 13ismyluckynumber at 5:41 AM
1 Comments:
I think you're right on. I've had my own shares of dreams relating to ex-signficant others as well. It'll get better. : )
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