From the outside speaking in

Tonight I had a conversation with a friend who is in high school. Not only did the conversation bring back memories from high school, it also made me realize just how we as individuals will brainwash ourselves in order to get out of something that might make us slightly uncomfortable. We will justify not doing things that we presume to know the result to, or things that seem certain when in fact they arent. In this conversation, i was helping kenny figure out how to approach a lady friend (something women say is easy, but they just dont seem to know how intimidating they can be). He was so focused on future problems that could arise as a way to not have to take a chance and talk to this girl. I wonder how many times in life we justify something as lost or forsaken because we are just afraid to take a chance. Afraid to step outside of our comfort zone and experience life to the fullest. Afraid to try for what we truly deserve. In the end i think kenny will do just fine, although like smoking, it might take a few tries to really quit a bad habit. It just took someone else telling him that he was keeping himself bottled up, keeping himself from stepping out there and changing his antisocial image.

In the end I think we all just need a little espresso-sized booster shot of confidence from a friend every now and then, accompanied by being verbally hit in the face with a ton of bricks to wake us up to the fact that our thinking can hinder our chances in life. An opinion of someone who is outside the situation and see it for what it really is.


Kenny says:
its not the talking thats scary...really Im afraid of the afters...after the questoin...after date...
Matthew says:
BUT WHAT IS KEY IS CONFIDENCE!
Matthew says:
damn dude... dont worry about that shit
Matthew says:
you cut yourself off at the balls before you know anything
Matthew says:
trust me man! its easy to worry about that stuff but its better to take the high road and just go with it
Matthew says:
thinking about that shit makes it easier to justify not doing anything about it... makes it easier to stay where you're comfortable
Matthew says:
makes it easier to stay inside your box that you have cut out for yourself...
Matthew says:
makes it easier to not get hurt by anyone else
Matthew says:
i understand man
Kenny says:
fucking hell...no one has ever come out and told me that
Matthew says:
haha well i dont pussyfoot around stuff... lol i try and tell it how it is man
Kenny says:
Iv always known but never heard it....fuck...that changes things